Sub-Modalities association and disassociation
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Hello, John Cassidy-Rice here from nlpcourses.com where exploring NLP sometimes outrageous, controversial and hopefully transformational. We’re going to ask you past the velvet curtain and into the inner works of NLP mind. So in the last video, we started to explore the thing called association and disassociation and what I want to do, just take a moment to expand on that because I do believe it’s one of the most powerful aspects of what we were calling submodalities and if you’ve just dropped into this video now and you’re not sure of what submodality is, go back and find the submodality video and then come back and join us.
So association and disassociation is also a safety mechanism your unconscious mind uses to protect you in a traumatic situation. So if you’re in a traumatic situation and you still need to function, if you don’t need to function, you may process the emotion there and then but if you still need to function, your unconscious mind pulls you out of that and disassociate you from what’s going on. Now, I had the pleasure of meeting Jim Windsor from the UK Army. Jim is a great guy. If you’re watching Jim, hi. Part of his job is when you’ve gone to a war zone and you’re coming back, his job is to help get your head straight. He’s an amazing guy.
The Army noticed several things because if you think about it if you go over to a war zone and you got to do some of those incredible things on our behalf, do you think you need to be associated or disassociated from what’s going on? Yes, it’s disassociated because if somebody’s pointing a gun at you, you can’t be thinking that they have a family and kids, etcetera because your life is at stake so they do some amazing things that we just not comprehend on our behalf. But do you think that will affect them as human beings and will they need to at some point process that out? Yeah and one of the things about UK Army, one of the things they’ve been to is tracking those danger times so when you come back from a war zone, you don’t come straight back into the UK.
You normally have a buffer zone which is normally in Cyprus, on the beach where you’re just hanging out, barbecues, playing football and just letting off a bit of steam. When you come back into the UK, you do not go directly back with your families. I don’t sure if you want to but you have to stay on camp. You can visit them but you stay on camp because those first week or so is a time when you might start to process some of this stuff out. The next danger zone in that situation would normally be between 18 to 24 months after experience when you’ve got that a bit of distance on what’s going on where the brain says, okay, we got to stop working on some of the stuff and start to disassociate them to the situation and the Army does a lot to support these guys in that situation because they know there’s a danger zone and want to put the help in place but also have you noticed that, maybe you heard there’s a pile up on the motorway, somebody climbs out of their car and spends 20 minutes helping the people, the emergency services arrives and says, “Excuse me sir, do you know half your stomach is hanging out” and the person who’s been helping everyone else because what do you mean, and over they go because in a traumatic situation, you do get pulled out of it.
Sub-Modalities association and disassociation in professions
But also in this profession like ambulance, the doctors, police, fire brigade, army, they have a safety valve because if it constantly disassociated from that, it’s also going to affect you so there is a safety valve. And that safety valve is called humor and from the outside world, often sometimes humor for one a better phrase, it sounds very sick. It really does. But it’s only meant for people insiders, not meant for anyone else and it’s a safety valve because if they didn’t do that, it would affect them.
Sub-Modalities association and disassociation and personal situation
And also we have to remember if you noticed if somebody in the family dies, there’s somebody takes over the organization because when somebody passes on, there is a lot to do. There really is a lot and what are they’ve been appointed to or just decide for whatever reason, okay, I need to sort all this out. They seemed kind of disassociate from the process obviously upset but disassociated from it, they get the paperwork done, well everyone else around them is collapsing, they get normally of what needs to be done and then you never really get over these things. You just don’t.
But three months afterwards while other people are starting to move on, starting to get on with their lives, they will start to go for the grieving process, i.e., they will start to associate to what’s just happened and we have to remember that they were there to support us when we were going for that grieving and we also need to be there to help them go for their grieving process because it’s important process to go through. So association and disassociation is one of the ways the brain uses to protect you especially if in a situation that is emotional. It doesn’t have to be traumatic. It can be emotional that you have to still function.
How you do that? You disassociate from that but like these things, sometimes you do need to associate because you want to process it out of the body. So if you get any questions, if you get any examples that you would like to share with us, if you would like me to expand on any jargon or any applications to any of the topics within NLP, head straight over to nlpcourses.com, find the video page, leave me a message, just say hi if I you want to, any questions, post it there and I will create a video just for you to answer your questions. So have a successful week and everybody here at nlpcourses.com, we wish you well