NLP Video Anchoring

Transcript of video below:

John: So welcome to this demonstration on anchoring. We have Maxene King here who has very kindly agreed to take part in this demonstration. Hello, Maxene.

Maxene: Hello, John.

John: What resource would you like anchored?

Maxene: I would like to anchor courage.

John: What type of courage would you like to anchor?

Maxene: Could you help me on that one please, John?

John: There’s different types of courage. There’s a type of courage you have when you have to stand up in front of a thousand people to speak; there’s a type of courage you have when you’re starting a new project, you’ve never done that sort of thing before. There’s a type of courage you have just to got to speak to somebody that you’ve never spoken to before.

Maxene: It would be the type of courage to start a new project.

John: Alright, so the type of courage to start a new project, something you’ve never done before.

Maxene: That’s right.

John: Excellent! Has there been any time in your life when you’ve had the courage to start a new project, something you’ve never done before?

Maxene: Yes.

John: Alright. When was that?

Maxene: Actually it was just recently. It was a course that I went on that I wasn’t quite sure how I was to go about putting everything together so I could go on it. It was very expensive. Normally, I would  have just back away but this time I’ve decided to go ahead and do it anyway.

John: Right, so when was that?

Maxene: Actually it was February.

John: February. February this year. OK. Excellent. So was that beginning of February? End of February?

Maxene: It was in the middle. It started on February the 14th.

John: So it started on February the 14th. Now the courage part, was it before then or on the 14th?

Maxene: Definitely before.

John: Before. So when did you think you had the most courage, the right type of courage to start something new but you’ve never done before, before February the 14th?

Maxene: When I made the decision that I was actually going to do it. I think the courage wasn’t just one off time, it was over a period of time where I thought about it and I worked my way through a process to actually then get to a point where I knew that I would be able to do it.

John: Right.

Maxene: It was within my capability to do it and then making that decision and commitment to doing it.

John: OK then. So it built up over a period of time?

Maxene: Uhmm.

John: So is it the type of courage when you made, when you get to a point and you’ve made that decision to take action or is it before then?

Maxene: Probably before. It’s the processing of working out how I’m going to do it because there are times before where I’ve been presented for something that I’ve wanted to do and I just kept putting up a series of blocks.

John: Right.

Maxene: But on this particular occasion, I was able to see the blocks and just push them out the way, one by one until I actually got to the point where “Yeah, OK. I’m going to do it”.

John: Right, excellent. So was there a particular block that you felt more courageous to push out of the way?

Maxene: I suppose it was the financial one.

John: The financial one.

Maxene: Yes.

John: And does that stand out in your mind?  Does a particular day that that stood out in your mind when you pushed past that block? You had the courage to push past that financial block.

Maxene: I can’t remember the day but I think I can remember the sensation that I went through.

John: OK then.

Maxene: To get there.

John: So it’s before the 14th?

Maxene: Yes.

John: Was it the month before? Couple of months before?

Maxene: I would say, it was actually quite a quick process. So it was just before Christmas and then just after Christmas I went and met the chap.

John: Yes.

Maxene: And so it would have been within that six-week period. But then I would have made, so when would I have made the decision– I supposed it would have been when I paid the first installment.

John: Right, OK then.

Maxene: Yes.

John: So was that during the week or a weekend?

Maxene: That would have been during the week.

John: Do you remember what day during the week?

Maxene: Wednesday.

John: Wednesday. Right.

Maxene: Kind of yeah.

John: And how did you pay it?

Maxene: I did a bank transfer.

John: You did a bank transfer. So were you at home? You’re at work?

Maxene: I was at home at my computer and I’m pretty certain it was in the evening.

John: So in the evening. OK.

Maxene: Yeah.

John: So you were sitting in your computer in the evening and you’re making that payment and you’re pushing through, doing something you’ve haven’t done before. Would that be the right type of courage that you would like anchored?

Maxene: Yes, because it’s the fear that comes up and yes, yes it is. Being fearful of something and then being able to yeah overcome it and go ahead and know what is right for you, right for me and then do it anyway. Yes. Yeah.

John: Excellent. So if I invite you to become the “you” of that Wednesday evening when you felt the fear but you did what was right for you, you pushed for that block.

Maxene: Uhm.

John: OK, so how would you say it? How would you say it?

Maxene: OK, I would have been, my hands on the computer.

John: Yeah.

Maxene: Looking up at the screen and then typing away and yeah.

John: Right. Right. So I invite you to fully become the you, feel what you feel, see what you see, hear what you hear.

Maxene: Uhuh.

John: I’m gonna invite you to teach me to feel the same way that you feel.

Maxene: OK. OK. So I’m sitting in front of my computer. I’m looking at resources at my bank account.

John: Yes.

Maxene: And I’m getting the details out of the whole string.

John: Yup.

Maxene: And then putting the amount in and just clicking that button and sending it.

John: Alright. Is that clicking that button and sending it, that’s the…?

Maxene: Oh yeah, that’s the bit where the excitement in the stomach.

John: Yeah, all these. And that’s the right type of courage that we wanna get.

Maxene: Yeah.

Maxene: We’re gonna go through that process and get that for you.

John: Ok. Do I have permission to touch to you?

Maxene: Yes, you can.

John: And I’m gonna suggest to put pressure on that knuckle there and it’s OK to do that?

Maxene: Yes yes it it.

John: Ok. excellent. Alright so again I’m gonna invite you to come to you, we’ve checked that this is right for you. So we invite you to become the “you” that Wednesday evening, at that point you had a computer and you said you had a feeling in your stomach. What was that?

Maxene: The feeling in my stomach is just like a whirling feeling, just of excitement. A whirl of excitement going on and anticipation. Yeah.

John: Right, OK. So that whirl of excitement, is it a small movement or it a big movement?

Maxene: Actually it was quite big.

John: It’s quite big yeah?  OK.

Maxene: Yeah.

John: So is it just in the stomach or is it elsewhere?

Maxene: No, really it’s in the stomach region.

John: In the stomach. Yes. And you said that feeling of anticipation. Where would I need to feel anticipation if I was to feel the same anticipation as you?

Maxene: So it’s like a line from my chest down into my lower abdomen.

John: Ok, and what does that line do? Is it warm, is it cold? Is it moving? Is it stiff?

Maxene: A bit tingly.

John: A bit tingly.

Maxene: Uhmm

John: Is that a bit tingly, is it moving up, moving down or was it just uniform tingly?

Maxene: It’s definitely moving, slowly.

John: OK. Slowly.

Maxene: And I would say, I could feel it moving up.

John: Right, OK. So we got this movement in the stomach which is quite a big movement and we’ve got this tingling feeling slowly moving up. What else?

Maxene: A smile on my face.

John: Yeah?

Maxene: Yeah.

John: So is it a big smile or is it a smile to self? How would you do that and do that now for me.

Maxene: It’s yeah.

John: Yeah.

Maxene: I don’t know how I’d describe it.

John: Yeah.

Maxene: Just a nice, relaxed.

John: Relaxed?

Maxene: Yeah.

John: So is it relaxed in the face, the shoulders, throughout the body?

Maxene: Actually it’s probably a feeling of everything just sort of letting go so you know. When you push the button, you smile and then kind of everything lets go and then able to move on to the next thing,

John: Right. That smile triggers this letting go?

Maxene: Yeah. Well the pushing the button actually was the bit that “Yeah OK. Now it’s done.”

John: Pushing the button, now it’s done so smile, that letting go. Now is, teach me to feel that same letting go.

Maxene: So, you’ve got the whirling going on in the stomach.

John: Yeah.

Maxene: And then a line coming up from your lower abdomen up to your chest.

John: Yup.

Maxene: With slight anticipation or and then you just make that decision, click the button and everything just floats away and you’re ready to get up and just move on to the next thing.

John: OK. Excellent, excellent. How are you breathing at that time? Breathing the same way. Are you breathing from your diaphragm, chest, stomach?

Maxene: Lower abdomen.

John: Lower abdomen, OK. As you go, really feel that. Would this be the right type of courage you would like anchored?

Maxene: Yes, it is.

John: Would you like to add anything else or are we there?

Maxene: Nope, we’re there.

John: OK then, so when you’re ready.

Maxene: Yeah.

John: I’m gonna invite you to go back into that feeling.

Maxene: Oh I’m there.

John: I know you are, I just want to fully isolated. It’s a great place to be. Right. What we’re gonna do, invite you to go back in, step into feeling. If you can just open your eyes for a second, just bring you out there slightly.

Maxene: OK.

John: We’re gonna put you straight back into it so we can get it is it’s clearly anchored for you. So when you’re ready and not before, I want you to go back into that feeling, feel what you feel, see what you see.

[silence]

John: OK. Excellent. That is a great place to be.

Maxene: Do you know, I was expecting you to push it like that and you didn’t.

John: No, it’s a gentle touch, isn’t it?

Maxene: Yeah, yeah.

John: It’s about 10 second. Very gentle. Good, good, good.

John: So I need to pull you fully out back coz we need to test it and make sure it’s working.

Maxene: OK.

John: Right. So I’ve got a joke. this is how bad it is, I’ve got it from the Tweenies which is a children’s program.

Maxene: Yup.

John: This is how bad it is, I’ve got it from the Tweenies which is a children’s program.

Maxene: Ok.

John: Which is a children’s program.

Maxene: Yup.

John: Knock knock.

Maxene: Who’s there?

John: Cows go.

Maxene: Cows go who?

John: They go moo. That’s why. They don’t have to be cow, I just need you to bring you out of that statement.

Maxene: Alright.

John: Right, so what I’m gonna do, I’m gonna reach over and fire off your trigger point for you and just allow whatever to happen to happen. It won’t go whoosh but you’ll probably notice it builds and you start to notice normally your breathing going fast.

Maxene: OK.

John: So just allow whatever to happen to happen.

[silence]

John: And do that for yourself so you know you can do it for yourself.

[silence]

John: Are you struggling when you do it for yourself isn’t it?

Maxene: It took a little while actually but yes and I was about to say no, I felt it was stronger when you did it but when you said that, certainly, yeah.

John: Yeah.

Maxene: Yeah.

John: OK. Excellent. So this is the resource that you can use at any time.

Maxene: Uh hmm.

John: Thank you ever so much.

Maxene: Thank you.

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4 Comments

  1. Muhammd Idris says:

    John – I tried the anchor setting which we covered on NLP Practitioner course recently for this weekends Lickey Hills run. I had 4 anchors 1.feeling tired –>2.Frustrated–>3.Anger—>4.Action. I was running uphill in a group and my shoulders dropped as I saw the hill. I tapped into the anchor when I completed the task before, where I felt on top of the word and pushed myself to complete the run. It was tough, however, I did manage to complete task even though I was completely tired. I am going to continue to master this technique for various other tasks at work. Many Thanks for all your help.

    1. Hi Muhammd, Good to hear from you and thank you for sharing how you have used you new skills. Looking forward to catching up with you soon

      John

  2. Hi,
    So, Maxene here knows that she has already recovered from a fear of doing new things and tells how she felt. Some people would not remember or tell whether they have had the same feeling before. How do we induce the answers from them. I was thinking maybe we could ask then how they felt when they first rode a bicycle without side wheels or anyone anyone helping them. Is that a right approach?

    1. Hi Nags, Thank you for taking the time to leave a question. You are correct in thinking some people would not remember a feeling. So you would help them for example I have help people recover feelings from over 30 years ago. example: when did you last feel this? “30 years ago” was this the beginning, middle of end of the year? “Not sure it was 30 years, lets say mid year” so was that June, July or August? “Not sure August/September” so was it the end of August or the beginning of September? “beginning of September”

      You would carry on this way until you got to the situation and feeling.

      Then to help someone describe a feeling I ask them to teach me to feel the same as them. Because people are not always good at describing feelings I help them by saying things like: “When you say confident, is it all over my body, in my arms, legs, head or body? or is it warm, cool, light, heavy, tingling?

      I hope this helps

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